Healthy and Unhealthy (toxic) Relationships

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Healthy and Unhealthy (toxic) Relationships

A relationship can be described as how two or more people interact with each other. There are different types of relationships based on purpose and seasons, and oftentimes one person can be in different types of relationships at the same time. Some of the basic types of relationships include – family, work, friendships, acquaintances, casual, romantic relationships etc.

It is important to note that a relationship can move from one level to another e.g. an acquaintance can become a close friend and then an intimate friend or lover that you will consider for marriage in future. It is therefore important that you relate with everyone with respect and dignity. Any of the types of relationships can be positive (healthy) or negative (unhealthy/toxic).

How to develop healthy relationships 🤝

A healthy relationship is a relationship that is built on shared values, common interests, aligned values and compatible personalities such that it shapes your life, contributes to your happiness and helps you grow. You can follow these steps to build and maintain healthy relationships:

1. Define your relationship – this is important to help both parties understand the boundaries and expectations of the relationship.
2. Practise open, honest and respectful communication.
3. Show mutual respect and understanding to each other.
4. Show appreciation and gratitude to each other.
5. Actively listen to each other’s feelings and thoughts.
6. Set and maintain healthy boundaries
7. Share equitable roles to maintain equality and a healthy relationship
8. Have feelings of empathy for each other.

Unhealthy (toxic) relationships ✋

An unhealthy relationship is filled with constant criticism, emotional or physical abuse, manipulation or control, dishonesty or betrayal and gaslighting i.e. making you doubt your sanity. It can happen when both parties in the relationship have conflicting goals and aspirations, incompatible hobbies and passions, clashing values and personality mismatch. Unhealthy relationships drain your energy and harm your well-being.

How do you know you are in an unhealthy relationship?

You feel drained, anxious or depressed
You are constantly walking on eggshells around the other person. This means you are afraid around the person
You are discouraged from pursuing your passions
You are isolated from your loved ones because you are in a relationship with the person
You are made to feel guilty or ashamed
You feel pressure to change who you are for the other person.

How to handle toxic relationships ⚠️

Acknowledge you are in an unhealthy relationship
Seek support – from family members, school counsellor, a trusted teacher, parent/guardian and authorities.
Protect your well-being by setting boundaries
Prioritise self-care
Quit the relationship and ensure your safety

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